Guide to getting married in St. Johns Knotty Ash
Congratulations on your engagement.
We hope that the information here helps you to think through your wedding day and especially about getting married in church.
Your wedding is a special day and we want the service to become a significant beginning of your married life and will be praying for you as you prepare to celebrate your love for each other within the love and presence of God.
We want you to have a good experience and will do our part in helping to make your marriage special and memorable.
Getting married in a church is different from a hotel or civil building and so here are some guidelines to assist you.
§ The Church of England has relaxed its rulings on where you can marry. So, if you or your parents have ever lived in the parish of Knotty Ash for more than 6 months you can marry here! So now there is no need to pretend to still be living with your parents to be eligible if you have moved away!
§ Divorcees are welcome but we do need to see your decree absolute and have a chat before we can go forward. Our faith though, is built on the foundation of repentance and reconciliation recognising that we all make mistakes and need new beginnings, so please don’t be worried, but come prepared to be open and honest
§ You may get married any day of the week apart from Sundays which is usually already a very full day!
§ We are still required legally to marry you within daylight hours…so any time before 5pm as a general rule!
§ Banns, which are a formal statement of your intent to marry, are read for 3 consecutive weeks, within 3 months of the wedding date. They are read in both the wedding parish and the one in which you live. These are legal requirements and you cannot be married if they haven’t been read!! The church you are to be married in will take responsibility for the banns but you are responsible for contacting the parish priest where you live. The website www.achurchnearyou.com will give you your local Parish Church if you don’t know!
Other information about the service
§ Our church is open as a regular place of worship and as such your wedding is a service of worship…it is not just a wedding venue!
§ One bible reading is a requirement in a church wedding but other readings / poetry etc. can also be included to make your service unique to you
§ A couple of hymns are usually included
§ Flowers, choir and organist are booked through church
§ Please leave one pedestal of flowers in the church following the service.
§ If you are thinking of having the service videoed please discuss as there are restraints.
§ Have as many photos as you like before and after the signing of registers but photographers are asked to refrain from recording the sacred part of the service.
§ No dogs (or horses!!) as bridesmaids!! (Yes, I have been asked!) but of course guide dogs for the blind, hearing or special aids are welcome!
Preparation for your marriage
At St. Johns we are not just interested in making your wedding day special but in helping you think beyond the day and on into your marriage.
To do this we will be inviting you to a morning of preparation.
This will include looking through the service together and helping you choose readings etc.
And thinking through some aspects of married life!
This will be done in a light hearted and informal manner with plenty of coffee and cake!
Details for this are given when you book your wedding.
So, to begin the process of planning your wedding here just either complete the form below, email or phone (0151 259 8929) the vicar, Julia, to arrange a booking in appointment. This can be done to suit your working needs although generally Fridays are not available.
To find out more about getting married in church visit the website www.yourchurchwedding.com
"Julia we just want to say a big thank you to you and your team for helping to make our wedding day such a successful occasion.
Both Paula and I had a lovely day and the church looked fabulous. We want to say thank you to everybody involved who helped, yourself, the choir, the people who prepared the church and did the flowers,those that helped with the music,the organist and anybody I may have missed.
The church is a fantastic venue for our wedding and you expertly guided us through every step and helped us both relax and be able to take in the day making it all so much easier.
We wanted to leave a message on the church website but couldn't find a feedback section so please pass on our thanks to all involved and be assured that you will see more of us as and when shifts permit and hopefully we can become a familiar face around the church community"
Jon and Paula Williams